Stress is without doubt one of the most common conditions that we can face in day-to-day life. It is easy to find in our day; all it takes is one part of a plan to fall apart, and everything will go wrong. It’s suggested that as many as 70% of any visits made to a doctor are likely to be caused, directly or otherwise, by stress.
However, stress is something that we usually view as a negative and a negative alone. You can, though, get something called positive stress. Positive stress is about making stress, usually a negative into a positive. Positive stress examples include a debate with someone, watching or playing in some form of sports, winning a game or competitive experience otherwise or even just taking part in any kind of competition. Positive stress, then is something that makes us feel good because it’s a rush.
Negative stress, though, is hard to miss. It’s the kind of stress that, when the cause is dealt with, is likely to leave you feeling relieved rather than happy. You derive no enjoyment from its completion, and you get nothing from the experience overall.
During the stress, you can feel overwhelmed with negativity and unlikely to find any source of positivity from the problems that you face.
The most common forms of negative stress include:
The power of any particular negative stress, of course, is relative. You could be worried about where you placed that £50, or you could be worried about one last late payment seeing you out on the street. You could be worrying about a cut on the cheek from shaving before a date, or you could be worrying about an upcoming major medical operation.
The scale of the stress is often in conjunction with the severity of the incident. However, what can often make it worse is ridiculing your own stress. Accosting yourself for being stressed out about a small worry when others are worse off is unlikely to help you find any kind of peace or relief. Recognising your own stress is valid, and also dangerous, but is very important. Chronic, long-term stress can lead to more than a negative attitude – it can also lead to issues in your family life, your personal friendships and your relationships overall.
You typically have internal and external stressors; from how happy you are in your job or in a relationship to how you deal with your own personal reaction to a situation, will determine stress. It’s why, for example, some people get more offended by a remark than others; their personal make-up means that they react differently. Overall, it’s important to accept that stress is valid, but also that some stress can be used as a positive energy and a motivation. If stress feels like it’s having a persistent and adverse effect on your life, then you should almost certainly look to find some form of support structure, including counselling.